A woman is breaking the stigma of choosing to be sterilized – so now every child is celebrating a free year with a cake.
Kara Jankowski, 36, said having sex with husband Alex, 34, is like “having kids in a candy store” now that she knows she won’t get pregnant.
People have branded Kara “selfish” and asked her “but who will take care of you when you’re older”
The child nutritionist said she doesn’t regret it and wants to break the stigma of not wanting to have children.
Kara from Davenport, Florida, USA, said, “I don’t want to enjoy my sex life alone when I go through menopause, so I decided to go for surgery.
“As soon as I did it, I realized that I am making a choice and not taking it away.
“It was such an absolute relief to be able to stop worrying. Sex is more fun now that I’ve been sterilized. It’s great.
Before I had fun and the worries started.
“Now it’s like kids in a candy store with no price tags who can get what they want.
Every November, they celebrate their ‘no-kids-for-sure’ anniversary with funny cakes with powdered sugar wombs and slogans like ‘I ain’t afraid of no kids’.
Initially, Kara postponed sterilization, believing she would keep her choice to possibly have children later, but after a pregnancy scare in June 2017, she had both fallopian tubes removed.
She said she didn’t want to add further restrictions to her freedom and go on vacation whenever she wanted.
Kara said she also feels a lot of love – for her family and friends – so it would be a “total wreck” if she had children.
Her husband – who also didn’t want children – considered getting “the snip,” but Kara wanted to “take it into her own hands.”
Kara said, “Growing up in St. Albans, a small town in West Virginia, having children is what everyone does.
First I waited for that moment when I wanted a child, and it just never came.
“My friends started to get pregnant and I knew it wasn’t for me.”