A woman has revealed she is looking for a platonic partner to have a child with – as she embraces a new co-parenting trend where singles link up to have kids with no romance involved.
Rachel Russo, 36, said she has not ruled out finding Mr Right and having a baby the traditional way, but wants to explore other options to becoming a mother.
The matchmaker, who spent 15 years bringing happy couples together, has joined thousands of others in signing up for websites that help not only match romantic partners but platonic co-parents and sperm/egg donors as well.
She said social distancing and dating apps full of people looking for flings have made dating diffiult.
She said: “Most single men don’t want to talk about having babies on the first couple dates, but if that’s a priority to women, I’m doing what I would advise any woman to do.
“The ideal situation would be the happily ever after romantic relationship, but I’m about equally comfortable with being a single mom as I am with being a co-parent.
She said the most important part of the whole process is doing your research.
Rachel said: “I’ve read books on co-parenting and on the single mother path. I’ve had consultations on fertility and seen spiritual doctors to find any romantic blocks and blocks on being a single mother.
“With being a single parent, you have 100% of the emotions and financial responsibility and going through the process yourself.“Co-parenting is like a ready made family, so the dad is there already from day one for the baby.”
The founder and CEO of co-parenting site Modamily, Ivan Fatovic, said many people are now considering their options.
He said: “While there are co-parents that find a romantic spark and opt for the old fashioned way of having children, platonic partners often choose either home insemination – turkey baster method – or in-vitro-fertilization.”
Like other dating sites, users set up profiles on Modamily and are matched to people with similar interests and timelines for having children as them.
Modamily also works with donor and surrogacy agencies to help users looking to go that route navigate the process.
Rachel, from New Jersey, said it can be difficult to differentiate between men who are serious about becoming co-parents and those who are just lonely and looking for distraction.
She added: “I think the challenges like with any site, especially during the pandemic, is who’s really serious and who’s just kind of bored, lonely, isolated and wanting someone to talk to, but not necessarily serious.
She says she has met someone during her six months on the site, but they haven’t been able to meet in person due to Covid-19 restrictions.
Despite its unconventional aspects, Rachel says she finds strength in the process of exploring different options for having children.
She said: “It’s kind of empowering because I can do something towards my goal of creating a family from the comfort of my own home.
“People shouldn’t rush into decisions, they should talk and if they’re aligned and have the same goals and timeline for having a child they should meet and that’s how I’m approaching it.”