A victim of domestic violence has described how she feared being killed if her ex-boyfriend forced her to kneel in a field after an argument.
Naomi Baxter, 22, was trapped in an abusive relationship for 18 months.
Connor MacDonald, 23, has physically assaulted Mrs. Baxter multiple times – spitting in the face, kicking and even hitting her.
She has since revealed the nasty text messages her ex had sent telling her that he would like to kill her and put her “ six feet underground with her father, ” who sadly passed away when she was only 12.
Preston Crown Court heard Ms Baxter and MacDonald row on June 10 last year via direct messages on Twitter about unpaid rent.
MacDonald threatened to stab Ms. Baxter’s relatives and demanded that she meet him in a nearby field at 5:00 pm or he would “smash her gaff to pieces.”
When she came to meet him, he ordered her to turn and kneel on the floor.
But when she looked at him, he put his hand on the back of his sweatpants where she thought the knife was.
As she ran off the field, he laughed and said to her, “You can go, but if you do, your whole family will die.”
Fortunately, two passers-by found her and called the police.
Ms. Baxter said she had been too scared to confide in family and friends about MacDonald’s brutal abuse. She said his manipulation went so far as to apologize for ‘allowing him to torment.
He often threatened to kill her relatives and, when she tried to leave him, he told her he would kill himself.
MacDonald, of Preston, Lancashire, was sentenced to 12 months in prison at Preston Crown Court on Friday, November 13, after being found guilty of assault and threats of killing.
Ms. Baxter is now encouraging other victims of domestic violence to speak out against their abusers. She said her experience and struggle would not be in vain if it helped “one other person”.
Naomi, from Kirkham, Lancashire, said: “It’s so hard for me to look back – I still struggle every day to come to terms with what I’ve been through.
“Despite everything he had done to me, I thought he was the best friend in the world. But he was a bad man.
“I was terrified every day, but I also felt like I needed to be with him, even though I was so afraid of him.
He told me I would never be believed – he had convinced me it was all in my head. That I deserved it. “
Ms. Baxter, who works in debt management, met MacDonald at school when they were only 14, but only started dating him 18 months ago.
About their relationship, she said, “Connor had abused me and held me in our ‘relationship’ with emotional and physical abuse for months and I hadn’t even heard of it.
“I knew I was depressed, I knew he made me feel awful, and I knew the things he subjected me to weren’t exactly normal, but he made it all feel so natural and it was even part of our routine. .
“He would threaten to kill my family for leaving him, this would extend from my mother to my nieces and nephews.
“He would threaten to kill himself if I ever told him I wanted to leave the relationship.
“He has physically assaulted me on several occasions. This would range from spitting in my face, kicking, pushing, pulling my hair and even hitting me.
“Whenever this happened, he said I deserved it and that I knew where to go if I didn’t like it, but I couldn’t leave. I should formally apologize to him for “letting him do this.” “
MacDonald was also caught on camera destroying her belongings, and text messages reveal how he intimidated her by giving him money to buy drugs.
The couple lived together at his home between January and April 2019, before moving in with her between April and June.
She said, “Connor often trashed my things or trashed my bedroom. On several occasions he would treat me to clothes or shoes and later tear them to pieces or burn them in front of me.
“All I wanted was to love and be loved by Connor, but all he did was make me a victim of the most horrible emotional and physical abuse. He may not have broken any of my bones, but he certainly broke other parts of me.
“Getting free from his chains was liberating, but trying to heal myself has been a long and lonely path.
“I am absolutely traumatized by his actions and I live in constant torment because of the abuse he has exposed me to for so long.
“I am on my way to recovery and let go of all the learned behavior. It’s a lot harder than I can put into words, but it’s a lot easier than living through it. “
After he was incarcerated, she said she felt she needed to find the courage to speak out because a lot of other people will be trapped like her – especially during lockdown.
She said, ‘I want to speak up now because if someone else feels trapped like me, if it helps one person, that means my fight was not in vain.
“It was too late for me, but maybe other people can still escape this.”